Communication is among the strongest aspects of parenting since it defines how children get to understand themselves, how they co-exist with others and how they maneuver in the surrounding environment. Since the early childhood, children depend on the communication process not only to be informed or ordered about something but to get the feeling of being emotionally involved, considered and comprehended. The manner which parents address their children, listen to them and how they react to what they think, slowly build up the emotional background of the parent-child relationship. Children also gain confidence and trust in the event that there is respectful communication, patience, and consistency. In case communication is cruel, indifferent, or erratic, children can feel insecure, ignored, or hesitant to communicate. The awareness of the long-term effects of daily conversations will help parents be more aware of their communication patterns.

Difference in perspective between adults and children is one of the greatest predicaments in parent child communication. Adults do have the tendencies of thought in logical, structured and future oriented, whereas children think in emotional, immediate and concrete. Children might not understand when the parents provide them with detailed explanations or abstract thinking. Communication with the child will necessitate the use of language that will be adapted depending on the level of development. Messages are easier to comprehend with the help of simple words, clear sentences, and concrete examples. Simultaneously, the recognition of the emotional state of a child prior to the behavior enables children to feel noticed. Children will be open to directions when parents understand emotions including frustration, sadness, or excitement.

Healthy communication is largely based on listening. When a child feels that he is indeed heard, there are higher chances he will contribute his ideas, fears and questions. Listening entails paying total attention, looking in the eyes and not being distracted. It is also comprised of letting children say what they want without interruption. Reflecting back what a child utters would reflect that his/her message is comprehended. The practice will build trust and foster honesty. Children do not get the urge to attract attention by being negative when listened to.

The tone of voice is an essential factor in communication. A low and monotonous tone conveys calmness and respect. An angry or harsh voice sends the message of threat, despite the words being reasonable. Children will not only react to what is said, but to how. With the help of parents who always use respectful tones, children understand how to address people with respect. The effect of this modeling is strong and permanent.

Effective and open communication can make the children aware of expectations and limits. Children feel confused and frustrated when rules and instructions keep on changing or are vaguely explained. Predictability is brought about by consistency. Security is brought about by predictability. When children are aware of what they are expected to do and the reason they are also more likely to cooperate. Describing the intent of rules will make the children realize that there are limits to keep them safe and promote their development and not to control them.

Free communication brings emotional safety in the family. This transparency enables the parents to stand by the children when they are facing difficulties before they get out of control.

Open body language and a warm face gives an impression of acceptance and availability. The body language can be closed or tight and communicate more of disapproval than words. By understanding nonverbal cues, the general communication is enhanced.

Development of effective communication is a long process. Trust is established by recurring positive involvements. Even the slight things discussed every day about school, friends, and interests gradually build up the relationship between the parent and the child. It is these little things that count.

Effective communication reinforces relationships, fosters the emotional development, and provides a positive environment in the family. Children who mature in families where communication style is respectful and free of secrets also grow up with improved social interactions and healthy relationships in adulthood.